Once upon a time you were a child, you had a smile in your face every day, you had a spark in your eyes every moment you were surprised, which was very frequently, because you had something inside of you that is the most powerful energy that everyone of us has inside, a strong potent connection with your inner self, with your divine source!
Sadly, as the time went by, you started to lose that connection, because you witness some things in the world that made you think that not everything was perfect as you used to see it, that there was some painful or struggling moments that were also part of your living experience. Nevertheless, at that age the negative events simply slipped away from you, although sometimes you had some troubling flashlights, in essence you still maintained that beautiful connection with your inner wisdom.
Through your growth, through your development, you started to see more and more some of those troubling experiences, now not only in your family but outside, you had some days that probably were shocking to you, probably due to rejection in the school, some type of bullying or simply because you still had a tender heart and a noble idea, that you were a good child and your friends should accept you and like to play with you all the time!
Eventually, some of your friends also started to develop their own character, they were also faced with some difficulties, witnessed painful behaviors and probably they had a worse environment than the one you had! All those experiences that they were immersed in, feeling the toxic vibes and conflict situations were also producing a dent in their pure hearts! Which day by day was growing, to slowly produce also an innate behavior to create a coping personality that probably is going to be the one that will give you plenty of troubles in your teenage years and early adulthood!
In spite of all this reality, there's something that still can save all this spiral of events, that probably we are seeing as discouraging and depressing, we can choose to see the silver lining that lies in every curve of your life, that is hidden among these lugubrious surroundings! And that is your inner voice, your inner spark that is still present in signals, in your dreams, in events, in people that will cross your path!
Probably many times you didn't understand why you dated certain kind of people or you kept attracting the same style in your partners! But there's a very powerful explanation that supports those encounters and experiences! The friendships that you have had, the places that suddenly you have felt as an urge to visit, the choice of your career, the choice of your jobs, the events that you were invited to!
All has a purpose, moment and meaning in your life! Until you recognize the importance of such people, events, places and lessons you will be able to assemble the whole picture of why you were feeling like that in each of those moments!
Why you had to experience bullying at high school? Why did you have a struggling childhood where you witnessed fights, discussions and sometimes even abuse? Why did you have those types of relationships and what was the hidden pattern behind them?
If you have learned something about your life so far, is that every time you complain or you focused in the negative examples and you pay more attention to the failures and struggles you will be creating a strong vibrational field to lure and attract more of the same!
However, if by any chance at some point in your life, take a pause to witness what has happened, adopt a mindset of student and humbly be able to see all the lessons that were immersed in each of the experiences, people and struggles in your life you'll be able to clearly see the message and little by little you will be growing and leaving out some emotional load in each of those experiences, break ups, hardship!
Moreover, if you develop a gratitude mind over all the people that has passed through your life, if you forgive everything that did and that you also repeated, you will be in a position of becoming a real agent of change in your life! You'll be able to see your journey as a series of doors or steps that you needed to open or climb to get to the desired place!
How do I know which is the desired place in my life?
That the big question and that is the password o decodify a much brighter future in your life! Taking the time, space, living the duel that you need to pass to let go each and every one of those stages is the most gratifying, meaningful and empowering experiences that you can create for your own life!
No one has the right to judge your decisions, no one has the right to criticize the pain, the mistakes and the repeated patterns that you were performing, because all of them also have done their part with their own lives! And is very easy to judge from the outside, but is extremely challenging to stop, reflect, accept and move forward at any point in your life and decide that enough is enough!
Those are the turning points in your life, those are the most powerful moments if you really know how to use them, they're the trampoline to propel you into the air of possibilities! And it is okay to have some days off, it is ok to feel sad or even depressed for short periods of time, but just be careful to allow those moments with an expiration time and date, because if you let yourself be dragged into those dark places, that's when you transform the turning points into sabotage stages that can last years and keep you in a toxic, negative loop that eventually will develop a sour mood, a grumpy personality and a victim complex that also will be harder to get rid of!
Therefore, don't make your life miserable just because you're human, just because you screw it up a few times or several times, it is part of the experience, it was also the things you were supposed to live in order to have contrast in your life and tear off all of the thick skin, scars, wounds and every kind of ailment and symptom that you probably were experiencing as a result of those situations!
But now, it can be a different story, now you can give a complete turn around of your life and witness everything as a huge learning lesson, as your master's degree of life!
Now to become a PhD in your life you will have to demonstrate the mastery, predicate with the example, live with congruent behaviors, let go the extra weight that probably is still keeping you from giving the best of you!
Through this new process, a lot of amazing things will happen and probably some residues still show up in form of minor conflicts, in form of still some toxic people, but the huge difference now is that your eyes, ears, and your intuition is heightened to perceive the danger signals without stressing you as much as they did! Giving you a more mature way to approach them!
To release the resistance and to allow more the peace in your life, to take a more proactive role instead of the "victim complex" that kept you years in the same place and attracting the same! Today you will be able to quickly bounce back to the person that you want to be, to the values that you're cultivating, to the core inner wisdom that resides in your heart and divine connection!
What are the key thoughts, emotions and behaviors that I should start to promote in my life?
In my personal opinion, you should now be able to identify and pick up the emotional states that don't resonate with what you want, which for instance, I assume that now you would want to be in a more peaceful state, enjoy more the simple things of life, develop more tolerance towards what you don't like and don't focus in those emotions too much time, just let them find the outlet but pick up the signal, that if you were feeling those emotions that means you have been having some days building up them with the wrong sequence of thoughts!
Additionally, is not becoming obsessed over those thoughts that we all might have, but it is more being able to say "I am not defined by those thoughts" recognizing that many of them are not even yours, and the ones that are, probably just as stated above are just residues of your old self, of the toxic behaviors and are the ones that you need to wash them off to take out that sour taste of your mouth and that low vibration out of your life!
You can also allow time to promote the good vibes un your life, to start looking for the things that you stopped doing because you "didn't have time" to start looking for the supportive people that were with you along the way and cared for you! The people that in spite of every absence, strong disagreement that you had with them because they tried to advise you about your life and give them or see if they will give you a second chance to be in your life again!
Cultivating a social supportive environment in addition to creating an empowering one is now also part of your purpose; those are the pillars that will sustain the journey and will give you strength during the troubling times! You should always remember that there's a strong influence in your life given by the five persons that you're surrounding with! Hence, pick wisely, strengthen the relationships that make you grow and just flow with the new adventures, surprises and probably different of challenges that you will now find in your life!
After all, your life will always be assembled of ups and downs, challenges and struggles, sweet and sour, dark and light, joy and sadness! But, with all that myriad of lessons you should be able to construct and shape your masterpiece that by the end of your life you might just say "I fully lived, I fully loved and I fully light up my life" if by coincidence you also happen to light up someone else's lives that is just the highlight of your physical experience that will go with you in the afterlife!